Step 2: Communication
So guy’s, what is the problem with us when it comes to communicating? Now I’m not saying that we can’t or don’t have the capacity to do it, but it seems at times that when it is necessary we will often not to live up to the moment. Can you honestly say that a plan no matter what it is can be completed with bad communication or no communication? The truth is that the big plan you may have can and will fail. Men have this problem of not wanting help sometimes, “you need to get out of that type of thinking”. This goes true at work, your business ventures and relationships.
In relationships listen we need to listen way more and talk less. Only offer your advice and opinion when she is seeking it. To do this you must know your women, that means listen more, duh! Trust me, she will spill her guts if knows you are really listening to her.
At work, don’t be afraid to express your opinion when it’s necessary. Be respectful and honest, your boss will appreciate you a lot more. That doesn’t mean he or she will take what you said into account all the time, but as long as your voice is heard that’s all that matters. Politics in the workplace is very prominent, so sometimes you may have to eat “crow”.
As with your business, you may have people working for you. This is where your business will succeed or fail. The employees are the work horse’s and you are the one with the reins. Listen to their needs and issues. Always have an open door policy “be available”. A happy worker is a hard worker, which means your business will continue to grow and more revenue will come in. Is’n that the whole point of having a business in the first place? Retention is the key here, remember that…
Step 3: Networking
How big is your network of people? Who is your network of people? Do you even have a network of people to begin? These are the questions you should be asking yourself in order for you to be on that road to success.
So, the first place to start this process is obviously your current place of employment. If you have heard or know of someone at your job that is doing something close to what you are doing, then you should reach out to them.
Always keep your ears open for any opportunity, you’ll be surprised at what you may hear. Next is the social media platforms like LinkedIn and Twitter. LinkedIn is basically for business professionals and should be your first choice. Facebook with all its drama and hype, it’s actually a good platform to get attention to yourself. Of course, I mean the business side of it. Twitter is a good and quick way to broadcast your ideas and business ventures. All of these platforms have peak hours so keep that in mind.
BOLO(Be On The Look Out) for the next step…
Step 1: Motivation
You must have motivation first and before any idea or plan can form. You have to know what motivates you. In order to find what motivates you, it’s a good idea to just start writing any and all ideas that come to you.
The more you write about whatever comes to mind the more your ideas will start to make sense to you. Sooner or later motivation will begin to form big ideas or small ideas. The size of the idea doesn’t matter at this point, nor will it ever will.
My philosophy is to try to think big all the time because planning it will be more rewarding at the end.
It will never be easy but it should be fun…
Stay tuned for the next step on: COMMUNICATION (work, business and relationships)
Why do you want to retire early? Does this make sense to you at this point in your life? Men tend to have this thinking that they would love to stop working for someone at some point in their life. The question is, what are you doing in order to achieve that dream. Because as it stands right now, it is a dream. Now, there is nothing wrong with having a dream to the something that will make you happy, but what’s your motivation.
Sites like Forbes and The Wall Street Journal can teach a lot of things in order to accomplish this goal. So let’s say you are a 30 something guy and you are pretty much fed up with what you are doing now. Do you have a plan of attack that will catapult you to that thing you want so badly?
The first we have to make sure is if you are ready to take on that challenge. This also means that you must look deep within yourself first. How mentally prepared are you? For me I’ve been singing that song for a long time, but I always found out that I never really prepared myself for what I really wanted. I invested more money in this type plan than actually being sure that this is what I wanted to do.
I don’t want you guy’s to make the same mistake that I did. Just think, if you could do what you really love and make money from it too, would you really be retired? Of course not, Warren Buffett, Bill Gates Oprah could have retired years ago if they wanted too. But they don’t because they love what they do. So don’t get caught up in this idea that retiring early is the dream, no you need to search out the best in you as a man first. Once you find that one thing because all you need is one, then you can take off like a rocket!!!
Everyone has their version of what the real American dream is. Some may say that becoming a famous football, basketball or baseball player is the dream. Then there are others that say becoming an actor or music artist is the way to go. So whatever the American dream means to you I believe that at some point family, freedom or function will be the starting point for your success.
This is by far the most important aspect to gaining great success in life. Where would most of us be, if we didn’t have a family? When you involve your family in your potential business endeavors, what eventually happens is that you will notice a change in the attitudes. Your wife will have a new found respect for you. Your kids, for those that have kids, they will find you to be more fun to be around with. This is a journey that I’m still discovering to this day. Just think for a second, what if you didn’t have family at all. What would you do? Well the answer to that is to make one. I mean that by saying hookup with like minded people. If you still have a day job, then attempt to go to them for support and if you still can’t find anyone then, you might as well just jump off a cliff or something because I don’t know what else to tell you. I’m kidding of course….please don’t commit suicide. But do kill self-doubt. Back to my point, when you have someone that sees that you are trying to become better, hold on to that person don’t let them go.
Ahhh…freedom,the very word that this nation was founded on. Every man desires some sort of freedom in life. But the kind of freedom I’m talking about is the free to do whatever the hell you want to do and when you want to do it. This is a mindset that you must adopt because it will be your guide from here on out. In order for you to get what you want, it is required that you do the hard stuff first. This is where most men fail because right when a change is about to come, they stop doing what got them there. We say things like, “I just don’t have the time”, “its costing too much money” “no one will help me” “this is stupid, I knew it was a scam”. These are the roads to a man’s failure. True freedom puts you in control of your life.
You got to have fun in order for you to function. What’s that point of working hard toward your dreams, if you are not having fun doing it. For example, if your goal is to be a great writer but you don’t want to write everyday, then chances are you won’t enjoy doing as a business, not only that you will probably suck anyway…Your job or your business should always and I mean always be enjoyable for you in some form or fashion. The most enjoyable moments for me in my line of work is actually helping people personally. Not when I was told to do the job but just the ordinary joe blow walking the streets. But anyway men, we are often too uptight and serious about stuff. Take a chill people and for once can we think with our brain and not our nuts. Your relationships will improve dramatically if you incorporate more fun in it. Fun is the cryptonite to stress.