So I’m assuming that either your dating or in a relationship. Or maybe your not dating because you just went through a bad break up. If that is the case, then let me be the first one to tell you that you’ll be okay. If you want your ex back, it can happen if you allow it to happen naturally. Breakups can be hard and it hurts like a pain that won’t go away. Just take the break up as a learning experience either for getting your ex back or for your next relationship. But before that happens you may need to work on your self a little bit. Only when you become a more confident man in her eyes; you can win back her love or be a new love for someone else.
But anyway, this article is about some tips you may want to think about when dating and in a relationship, so here we go…
Live your life to the max and beyond! Creating a full life puts you in charge of your own happiness and less emphasis and dependency on finding a relationship to make you whole. You must be whole as a person first before a healthy relationship can be cultivated. By developing yourself, those internal feelings of zest and fulfillment will show on the outside as well. This is a very attractive attribute that women like.
Know who you are, what your needs and values are, and what you as man stand for. This will take you as far as you delve into the dating world. Having a clear vision and purpose will help you be more centered and grounded while on your quest. When you present value you will attract value, simple…
Examine your relationship history. So here’s the thing, you need to determine what behaviors worked for you and which ones didn’t. Identify the obstacles that prevent you from engaging in the kinds of relationships that you want.
Don’t confuse chemistry with compatibility. Ok this can be a little confusing, I know. Chemistry is like you and girl can work together good on things. You can have good chemistry with a co-worker or business partner, but that doesn’t mean you should date this person. Compatibility means that both you and her like a lot of the same things and you too are emotionally attached as well. This part is very important because the emotional connection is what most if not all women want from a man. Not to say that you need to be crying and talking about your feelings, that is a turn-off. Just to be afraid to just talk to her in a confident way that shows her that you care and love her.
Determine if you are really ready for a relationship and assess your true motives. One of the biggest relationships sabotages is not being able to be fully present, being distracted by other needs or issues, and having other priorities that compete with the relationship. Figure out if you are dateable and develop goals to accomplish true relationship readiness. Develop your self-esteem and create a vision for how you like your life to be.
Don’t stay in a dating relationship that is not working. If you feel that dating this particular person isn’t working then don’t stay in it for that sake of staving off loneliness or fearing hurting her feeling’s. This only robs both of you of precious time that could be better served to improve your quality of life in a new direction. Learn to be assertive and direct with you needs and feelings. She won’t know if you don’t tell her and by doing this she will respect you more as a man.
Don’t bail out of a dating relationship at the first sign of trouble. Relationships take hard work and conflict is actually a necessary precursor to deeper connection and intimacy. Assess what’s missing and what the barriers are and determine if negotiations are possible. There can be growth without healthy conflict; however, know the difference between that and when the relationship is really not a good fit for you.
Be proactive in getting what you want and take responsibility for what happens. Conquer your “anxieties” about taking initiative. Don’t stand on the sidelines hoping someone will make contact with you. Make that move yourself and choose to approach someone if you are interested in. Remember the mantra: NO MORE MISSED OPPORTUNITIES!
Face your fears of rejections like a man: A turn-down for a date has nothing to do with you as a person; it has everything to do with her projections and needs. Know that you are worthy and deserving; BECAUSE YOU ARE!!
Build your support network. Surround yourself with positive people who will affirm you and support you. Family and friends provide a much-needed source of connection, love, and fun that can truly enhance your life as a single man.
Sooo…I’m hoping that you guys aren’t taking that literally. I don’t want you to die nor do I want any harm to come to you. What I mean is that you have to make a decision right now about how you see yourself in the next 5 to 10 years from now. Listen I’m always trying to find ways to invest in myself because I want more out of life, and you should want the same thing too…Right?
There are several ways that you can invest in yourself the right way. The first investment that you can make is”you”. Your job is to know yourself first before you can invest in anything that is of substance. So, now that we got that out of the way now comes the other stuff like education, training and starting a business.
Education can be from a variety of sources, mainly college, trade schools and self-education. Training can come in two forms, voluntary and involuntary. Most businesses, governmental and organizations have mandatory training for their employees. Now if plan on staying with your current employer for the long haul then my advice to you is to see this mandatory training as n invest where both sides win.
For me though…
I love self-education because it gives me full control over what I want to learn and how fast I want to learn it. Say for instance Udemy which is a site dedicated to learning on the go. This site has so much to offer from software development, marketing strategies, and photography just to name a few. Next, you have LinkedIn which is a business networking site for professionals. They have a great learning curriculum that I’ve found just as useful, you should explore both sites to see which one fits you.
And last but certainly not least is starting your own business. Your first stop should be Small Business Administration (SBA). This site is gold if you are serious about wanting to start a business. It has everything that you would ever need to getting started. If you need help with a business plan, don’t hire someone do it yourself. The software that they have for creating a business plan is simple and easy to use.
If you decide to go through the process don’t forget about the DUNS(Data Universal Number System) this number is like a profile for your business. Not to be confused with a tax ID. This number tells you and others the name of your company, financial data, trade name, payment history, economic status and even the name of your executives if you have any.
“Don’t let your dreams, ideas, goals, aspirations die. Share what you have with the world don’t keep them hidden, because when you’re gone from this world so are they”.
With all that being said don’t forget to tune in to Man Up To Greatness podcast for I will be discussing this exact topic.
As men, we like to make sure our face is always looking good. When you look good you feel good and women love that in a man. But sometimes after a shave or haircut, you may get the dreaded bump or two, or maybe even several. If you are like me you can’t stand having those. The good news is that I may have a solution to your problems.
Two words…(Tea Tree ) which is something that has been around since the beginning of time. It’s an antiseptic plant found in Australia. This plant has the power to heal wounds fast without any type of chemicals. It can treat a number of things but for us guy’s I’ll break it down just for us.
Tea Tree oil when used properly can help with:
Fungus aka Athletes Foot
Bacterial Infection (like small cuts, insect bites, cold sores)
Just to name a few… So what I do after every shave and/or haircut I grab a q-tip and place a few drops on the cotton head. Then I just rub around the area on my face or hairline that’s given me issues. Usually, after a day or two, the bumps are gone or going away. Now I must warn you that this stuff is strong, now while it can’t burn you the smell is very noticeable. So get ready to get kicked out of the bed. If you have sensitive skin, I would suggest diluting with pure coconut oil (organic-raw). You’re going to have to figure out what’s best for you.
Please leave comments I would love to hear from you guy’s about this.
Step 2: Communication
Guy’s, what is the problem with us when it comes to communicating? Now I’m not saying that we can’t or don’t have the capacity to do it, but it seems at times that when it is necessary we will often not to live up to the moment. Can you honestly say that a plan no matter what it is can be completed with bad communication or no communication? The truth is that the big plan you may have can and will fail. Men have this problem of not wanting help sometimes, “you need to get out of that type of thinking”. This goes true at work, your business ventures and relationships.
In relationships listen we need to listen way more and talk less. Only offer your advice and opinion when she is seeking it. To do this you must know your women, that means listen more, duh! Trust me, she will spill her guts if knows you are really listening to her.
At work, don’t be afraid to express your opinion when it’s necessary. Be respectful and honest, your boss will appreciate you a lot more. That doesn’t mean he or she will take what you said into account all the time, but as long as your voice is heard that’s all that matters. Politics in the workplace is very prominent, so sometimes you may have to eat “crow”.
As with your business, you may have people working for you. This is where your business will succeed or fail. The employees are the work horse’s and you are the one with the reins. Listen to their needs and issues. Always have an open door policy “be available”. A happy worker is a hard worker, which means your business will continue to grow and more revenue will come in. Is’n that the whole point of having a business in the first place? Retention is the key here, remember that…
Step 3: Networking
How big is your network of people? Who is your network of people? Do you even have a network of people to begin? These are the questions you should be asking yourself in order for you to be on that road to success.
So, the first place to start this process is obviously your current place of employment. If you have heard or know of someone at your job that is doing something close to what you are doing, then you should reach out to them.
Always keep your ears open for any opportunity, you’ll be surprised at what you may hear. Next is the social media platforms like LinkedIn and Twitter. LinkedIn is basically for business professionals and should be your first choice. Facebook with all its drama and hype, it’s actually a good platform to get attention to yourself. Of course, I mean the business side of it. Twitter is a good and quick way to broadcast your ideas and business ventures. All of these platforms have peak hours so keep that in mind.
BOLO(Be On The Look Out) for my ebook for the rest of the steps