Everyone has their own way of dealing with stress, so what’s yours? Do you let your stress affect the place where your work? Do you bring stress from work to your home? Is stress stopping you from wanting to do more with your life? The point is that if you let stress take over your well being then, yes it will consume you and anyone that is around you. I pretty sure you have heard that a single person can light up a whole room, maybe you know someone like that. So when we start stressing about bills, work, relationships it sends a negative energy that can sometimes be as strong as positive energy, if you let it.
What you have to understand is that everything runs on some type of energy. Your energy towards life will dictate how you progress. Listen, there is one thing that you must always do, each and every day and that is absolutely nothing. That’s right, take a few minutes out of your day and evaluate what you’re ultimate goal is. Goals keep you positive and gives you a sense of direction. Cause it’s very easy to lose focus when things get tough. Just remember, stress is just energy that’s all. You can’t destroy it but you can control it. Take for example a fire, if you let that fire keep burning, it’s going to get bigger and hotter. A fire can get so hot that water seems to have no effect at all and it can take hours sometimes for it to be controlled. So don’t become that out of control fire.
Yes, just like the title says, I have fear. Fear is something that can either make you a coward or give you courage. For me, it has made me a coward for years in all parts of my life since I can remember. Regret has only made that fear more powerful, so has procrastinating and let’s not forget laziness. I have been all three of these negative acts of emotion that have defeated me countless of times. My father died when I was just a teenager from a heart attack, I didn’t graduate high school so I had to get a GED. I then went to college online for a number of years and accumulated over 100k in student loan debt. I got married young to someone I really didn’t love but had a child anyway by her.
There was a point in my life that I could only hold a job for 6 months at the most. I rarely held a job for a year or more. I wasted so much of my own money trying to figure out ways to make more money and not work for someone else. Know, I want you to understand something about me. I really hate working for someone else and answering to someone else as it relates to a job. I know what you are saying, “well Reginald everyone feels that way”. Well, that’s not entirely true because some people love going to work every day. Then there are some people that love what they do but hate doing it for someone else. There are two types of people in this world, the first type of person, is the one that plays it safe by having a job to go to with benefits. This person lets call him Eric looks forward to retiring one day from his job with full benefits. Eric doesn’t take to many risks in life because he really doesn’t need to. Eric reports to work and his boss tells him what needs to be done today. Eric does what he is told but there are times hen Eric wishes he could just have his own business and do the same thing. Eric thinks about it from time to time but he lets fear take over that idea/dream. The fear inside Eric is strong that he would rather keep working for the rest of his life for someone, rather than take a chance by risking everything to start his own business.
The next type of person is a risk taker and dreamer lets call him Chris. Chris really doesn’t care too much about his job because he wants to work for himself one day. The problem is that Chris doesn’t know how to do it nor does he really know what he wants to do. Chris has the passion but doesn’t have the path. And you have to have both in order to accomplish your dreams. Fear has prevented Chris from finding that path because he has yet attempted to start it. Once he figures out that he just needs to place one foot on the path, it will pave its own way.
Fear gave me the courage to write this article because I want you guys to understand that I know how you feel and what you are going through. But I want to let you know that it’s okay to have fear but it’s not okay to be scared. When you are scared you are defeated don’t let that happen to you. Pursue your dreams, conquer your fears and I will meet you on the other side with open arms.