So I’m assuming that either your dating or in a relationship. Or maybe your not dating because you just went through a bad break up. If that is the case, then let me be the first one to tell you that you’ll be okay. If you want your ex back, it can happen if you allow it to happen naturally. Breakups can be hard and it hurts like a pain that won’t go away. Just take the break up as a learning experience either for getting your ex back or for your next relationship. But before that happens you may need to work on your self a little bit. Only when you become a more confident man in her eyes; you can win back her love or be a new love for someone else.
But anyway, this article is about some tips you may want to think about when dating and in a relationship, so here we go…
Live your life to the max and beyond! Creating a full life puts you in charge of your own happiness and less emphasis and dependency on finding a relationship to make you whole. You must be whole as a person first before a healthy relationship can be cultivated. By developing yourself, those internal feelings of zest and fulfillment will show on the outside as well. This is a very attractive attribute that women like.
Know who you are, what your needs and values are, and what you as man stand for. This will take you as far as you delve into the dating world. Having a clear vision and purpose will help you be more centered and grounded while on your quest. When you present value you will attract value, simple…
Examine your relationship history. So here’s the thing, you need to determine what behaviors worked for you and which ones didn’t. Identify the obstacles that prevent you from engaging in the kinds of relationships that you want.
Don’t confuse chemistry with compatibility. Ok this can be a little confusing, I know. Chemistry is like you and girl can work together good on things. You can have good chemistry with a co-worker or business partner, but that doesn’t mean you should date this person. Compatibility means that both you and her like a lot of the same things and you too are emotionally attached as well. This part is very important because the emotional connection is what most if not all women want from a man. Not to say that you need to be crying and talking about your feelings, that is a turn-off. Just to be afraid to just talk to her in a confident way that shows her that you care and love her.
Determine if you are really ready for a relationship and assess your true motives. One of the biggest relationships sabotages is not being able to be fully present, being distracted by other needs or issues, and having other priorities that compete with the relationship. Figure out if you are dateable and develop goals to accomplish true relationship readiness. Develop your self-esteem and create a vision for how you like your life to be.
Don’t stay in a dating relationship that is not working. If you feel that dating this particular person isn’t working then don’t stay in it for that sake of staving off loneliness or fearing hurting her feeling’s. This only robs both of you of precious time that could be better served to improve your quality of life in a new direction. Learn to be assertive and direct with you needs and feelings. She won’t know if you don’t tell her and by doing this she will respect you more as a man.
Don’t bail out of a dating relationship at the first sign of trouble. Relationships take hard work and conflict is actually a necessary precursor to deeper connection and intimacy. Assess what’s missing and what the barriers are and determine if negotiations are possible. There can be growth without healthy conflict; however, know the difference between that and when the relationship is really not a good fit for you.
Be proactive in getting what you want and take responsibility for what happens. Conquer your “anxieties” about taking initiative. Don’t stand on the sidelines hoping someone will make contact with you. Make that move yourself and choose to approach someone if you are interested in. Remember the mantra: NO MORE MISSED OPPORTUNITIES!
Face your fears of rejections like a man: A turn-down for a date has nothing to do with you as a person; it has everything to do with her projections and needs. Know that you are worthy and deserving; BECAUSE YOU ARE!!
Build your support network. Surround yourself with positive people who will affirm you and support you. Family and friends provide a much-needed source of connection, love, and fun that can truly enhance your life as a single man.